Why do we settle for a bare minimum ?

"The core definition of bare minimum is literally one step above nothing"

 Truthfully, this is because we are so desperate in making a relationship work. We wanted the connection with that person to labor into something more serious. Sadly, this is the usual product of past failed relationships. You realize that maybe you are setting your standards way too high that no one seems to match them, so you opted to lower them, and for some reason, it is indeed working.

So how you can tell if someone is giving you a bare minimum? Easy. It's also the same moment you ask yourself that question. They will give you little of their time, effort, commitment, and emotion, just enough to keep you interested. It is when they make you feel dramatic if you ask more from them. They "like you" but not enough to actually pursue you. And they're not as emotionally invested as you. Sakit noh? And since you're way too swayed by this person, you will never realize it. You'll probably think that sacrificing some of what you truly deserve in a relationship is worth it. 

But it's not. 

You will know when someone is bare minimum-ing you when you find yourself in a never-ending feeling of confusion on where you really should stand. The future you picture in your head is nothing but a blurry and muddy vision. You are basically on your tip-toes all the damn time. 

The worst part about all of this is, that you do not know how to get out of it. Because you are too deep and full of intense feelings for this person who sadly is not even sure about you. It's always gonna be a competition and you know. You are aware, that it's always gonna be you on the losing side. 

When you accept that kind of treatment, you are also courting heartbreak. However, you are smitten, whipped even to do something about it. You settle for the bare minimum because you enjoy romance no matter how short-lived it's going to be. You unconsciously love the thrill and excitement it gives you. You know it makes your heart happy and you're more than willing to be the receiver of whatever little he is giving you. Dumb right?

Oh so he texts and updates you? Sends you photos? Asks you out on dates?

Girl, AS HE SHOULD! If he really wants you, giving you time and making effort should not be a problem. And it's also something you shouldn't be asking for anyway. 

At the end of the day, you should not be settling for this kind of relationship. You do not deserve to be put in a confusing situation. You are more than the butterflies you get when you read their message. Lastly, what is the use of a relationship if that person can't even meet you halfway? If he/she cannot match the energy and wavelength you are so eager to give then kiss their asses goodbye. 

They are not worth it. 

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